As a father with a son headed to college in a few weeks, as a son of a father who took time to teach me, I'm offering this page aa a sampling of the wisdom that my father taught me and that I hope my sons learn from me.
Many of the books were recommended to me when I was living under my father's roof. Some of them I discovered on my own. None of them have I lived without error. But, does falling off the path into the mud make you less or better able to point out the path and it's importance to those who walk behind?
In the end, there are only 2 rules: 1) Love GOD and what's right and 2) Love ourselves and other people. All that follows are the details about how to pull that off and still enjoy as much as we can our walk accross the planet.
Here's to all the fathers who come with trembling and reverence
to the feet of their sons and daughters:
hoping the child will see and copy what's good
so that the child will then go and find in tomorrow
than we as fathers could ever imagine.
2. How to Win Friends and Influence People
The most important part is about taking a GENUINE interest in other people. Without this, the rest is worthless.
3. The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin
The most important part of this book is the method he used for developing the virtues. Franklin attributed that grading system to be THE primary reason for his success.
4. Anytime...for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, & Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation
I wrote this for my sons. It's my way of telling my sons about what to do with sexual energy. Most think the only thing to do with an erection is to masturbate or to have sexual intercourse. Leonardo da Vinci, Ben Franklin, Sigund Freud, the Chinese Tao--all say otherwise. This book explains:
5. 10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives:
This one for the chapter on stupid chivalry.
6. Osler's "A Way of Life"
His advice to graduating seniors and Johns Hopkins is the best I've read. Notice that he says that just 10 minutes per day with the scriptures puts you in contact with the wisdom of the ages. Also, this is where he lays out the most wonderful idea of liveing in "day-tight" compartments.
7. Arnold's Education of a Bodybuilder
Written before he became famous, notice how determined he was. Also, men are supposed to have muscles. Develop brain and brawn. Bobby Fischer lifted weights to develop confidence to play chess! See that you don't ignore your body. This is a classic on strength.
Happy Father's Day. Keep the Courage and the Virtue and the Fun in Fatherhood.
Peace & Health,
Charles Runels, MD
The Temple Repairman™